// a different perspective //

a book i read today gave me some enlightenment.
actually i only read one chapter, which i thought interesting.
this made me realise how important the naming of the chapter is.
having an apt and short name allows the reader to find the info he/she needs easily without ploughing through the whole book.

it's important to realise that you and your parents lead different lives.
seeking validation from them only goes to show how insecure you are.
their intrusion in your life only make them seem insecure, unwilling to let go.
people fall and make mistakes, you are not alone.
being too sensitive to their words will only make yourself upset.

all the things that happened since the beginning of this year have almost drove me to a breaking point.
there's the day my aunt suddenly passed away.
there were unbearable days at home.
there were days i was disappointed with myself at work.
there's the day i couldn't get the required stamp and signature.
there's the jittery day i spent at the immigration centre and only to be told of being blacklisted.
but times of crisis also present opportunities to make a turning point.

optimism is not the same as having positive illusions;
it is the ability to turn things around.

i was too concerned about seeking validation.
i was too uptight about the 10 aus at stake.
i was too anxious to get things done.

maybe only when you release your attachment to the things and events happening around you, will you feel better and days become brighter


also thanks to my friends who gave me a different perspective and some confidence.
sometimes, people need to be reminded of why they are needed.